36 Easing Distress When Death is Near
Odours, when sweet violets sicken,
Live within the sense they quicken.
Rose leaves, when the rose is dead,
Are heaped for the beloved’s bed;
What is a good death? When asked, many adults facing the end of life hope to control pain and other distressing symptoms, have a sense of preparation for death, and achieve a sense of completion; however, other factors important to quality at the end of life differ by the individual.1 For some, a child’s death can never be good. Nevertheless, as palliative care clinicians, we can aspire to enable a better death experience for the child and family when we are faced with the inevitability of a child dying. This chapter will review strategies aimed at trying to achieve this outcome.
Importantly, when a child is dying, all care goals may not be uniformly focused on easing suffering. Recent studies affirm the common clinical experience that even when a child’s illness is said to be incurable, parents will hope to extend life concurrent with ensuring comfort.2,3 Family values will differ: While some aspire for a peaceful end of life experience for their child, others value another approach, as stated by one father:
“The battle with the dragon, or the intent and the need, or the struggle to come to grips with him, or just coexist with him even, threatened to consume our lives. In the sense that the battle against the illness and all the circumstances—logistical and practical, and medical, and financial, and interpersonal…that became all consuming, just like the dragon’s fiery breath…just like his fiery breath is understood to be all consuming, literally obliterating either an individual, or a number of individuals, or a whole village.”4
Interdisciplinary Caring
During this most intimate of clinician-family experiences, the care of a dying child, exquisite collaboration among all involved is required to meet the needs of the child and family. Table 36-1 highlights key roles and activities of the interdisciplinary team. No matter where the child is being cared for, short huddles or meetings among team members may be helpful to maintain open lines of communication.
Clinician | Discipline specific roles | Interdisciplinary roles |
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Recognizing When Death Is Imminent
Dying is a dynamic process. Though the process is influenced by many factors, it is remarkable how similar it can be despite very different underlying illnesses. Clinical experience suggests that when approaching death, a child typically experiences the following constellations of findings. The child is often bedridden, semiconscious, with little or no oral intake, and changes in pulse, respiration and peripheral circulation may also be apparent (Box 36-1).5
BOX 36-1 Signs of Impending Death
Adapted from Bicanovsky L. Comfort Care: Symptom Control in the Dying. In Walsh, D et al Palliative Medicine 1st Edition, Saunders, An imprint of Elsevier Science, 2009.
Brain death
Typical signs of dying may not be present when a child is brain dead and is still receiving cardiorespiratory support. In children, brain death most commonly arises from traumatic brain injury due to child abuse, motor vehicle accidents, or asphyxia.6 Though there is general acceptance of the definition of brain death, it may still be difficult for parents and other loved ones to grasp this reality because the child may not appear dead. The clinical neurological examination remains the standard for the determination of brain death and has been adopted by most countries. The declaration of brain death requires not only a series of careful neurologic tests but also the establishment of the cause of coma, the ascertainment of irreversibility, the resolution of any misleading clinical neurologic signs, the interpretation of the findings on neuroimaging, and the performance of any confirmatory laboratory tests that are deemed necessary (Box 36-2).6 Despite medical consensus of the definition of brain death, not all religions officially accept this definition of death.7 Depending on the family’s beliefs and those of spiritual or religious advisers, families rarely disagree with this death pronouncement but conflict resolution may require ethics consultation and/or judicial involvement. Nonetheless, a thorough understanding of brain death can aid in conversations with families. Once cardiorespiratory support is discontinued, the typical signs of dying ensue.
Key communication topics
Several communication topics are discussed in detail in Section 2, and will therefore not be covered in this chapter. Notably, however, anticipatory guidance can help prepare families for the child’s end-of-life course and ease the child’s and family’s distress. Proposed timing for key communication topics in children with advanced life-threatening illness is as follows:
There are several key principles in managing the child’s final days. An analytical approach to symptom control continues, but usually relies on clinical findings rather than investigation. Drugs should be reviewed with regard to need and route of administration. Some patients manage to take oral drugs until near their death, but many require an alternative route. Finally, it is essential that the care team maintains effective communication and ensures that support is in place for the family. A daily visit for inpatients or a daily phone call at a planned time can be very reassuring for families. Experience suggests that clinician home visits from the hospital-based team are greatly appreciated throughout the entire palliative care course, and data suggest that this is especially valued at the end of a patient’s life.10
Easing Child Distress
Drawing inward
The endpoint of the terminal phase is often marked by a turning inward, away from the external world, by the child. Cognitive and emotional horizons narrow, as all energy is needed simply for physical survival. A generalized irritability is not uncommon. The child may talk very little, and may even retreat from physical contact. Although such withdrawal is not universal, a certain degree of quietness is almost always evident. The child is pulling into himself or herself, not away from others. It is critical to explain this behavior as a normal and expectable precursor to death to the parents so that they do not interpret it as rejection.11,12
Drowsiness and altered consciousness
Diminished wakefulness is also very common during the last days of life13 and is often desirable for the child and family. However, it is also not uncommon for parents and loved ones to want to hold onto every wakeful moment possible. At times this desire can hinder titration of pain-relieving medications because of the worry of further limiting wakefulness. The team should continue efforts to try for a careful balance of comfort and an ability to interact, while at the same time encourage the family to continue their own interactions, such as gentle hugging or touching, talking or singing, with the hope that the child perceives such gestures. One family reread aloud the first book of the Harry Potter series to their dying child, hoping that the story would bring as much joy to him as it had previously.
Escalating pain, dyspnea, and agitation
Three highly common symptoms that may require intensive treatment efforts are escalating pain, dyspnea, and agitation during the final days of life. Full details for management of these distressing symptoms can be found in Chapters 2831, and 32. One challenge to successful management is variability among providers in the approach to medication titration. Children’s Hospital Boston examined adequate symptom management in children with cancer at the end of life and found the following barriers to care:14
In response to these findings, an interdisciplinary taskforce developed guidelines and a standardized order set to achieve greater consistency in medication titration and symptom management outcomes (Box 36-3). When a patient experiences a refractory symptom that cannot be captured through appropriate titration of symptom-relieving medications as described, then sedation to unconsciousness, or palliative sedation, may be indicated. Full details related to consideration, discussion and administration of palliative sedation can be found in Chapter 23.
BOX 36-3 Guidelines for Management of Escalating Pain, Dyspnea, or Agitation at the End of Life
Adapted from Children’s Hospital Boston Guidelines for Management of Escalating Pain/Dyspnea/Agitation at the End of Life. Boston, Mass. Revised 9/2000. All rights reserved.
Noisy breathing
Breathing can become particularly noisy when death is imminent and is often described as the death rattle. This is more common in patients with primary lung disease or brain tumors.15 It is critically important to prepare family members for this possibility. Because this symptom is often present when the child is already unconscious, the child may not experience this as uncomfortable. However, transdermal scopolamine, l-hyoscyamine drops for smaller patients and glycopyrrolate can be helpful in drying secretions and diminishing this symptom.16–18 Treatment of what the family perceives as suffering should be a priority, even if there are differences of opinion within the care team.